In matters of love, there are times when saying "let bygones be bygones" had to be obeyed. However, in some cases, sometimes the lover in the past it was the best.
Then, when the former suddenly asked "reversal", how do I know if he should be given a second chance?
1. Your friends are still friends with him.
If your friends think of your ex-man is fun to be with, it means the he is worthy of consideration.
2. You can not stop thinking about it.
Relationship is over for months, even more than a year ago, but you still dreaming about the former. If you do not accidentally meet somewhere, heart pounding, and you felt uncomfortable.
3. He was never abusive, both physically and verbally.
During the courtship he never treat you badly.
4. Notice the way he asked for "feedback".
Did he send an SMS or BBM ask your girlfriend back so suddenly, without any prior approach? It could be that only a whim, or a sudden he just missed you since triggered a memory, and changed his mind the next day. Although there have been dating before, ask for reconciliation in the former should be done as pedekate before going out, not by way of instant. At least he's getting you a date yet, at least once.
5. You know why your relationship failed in the past, and how to overcome them.
For example, once you break up with him because of religious differences, make sure you and your ex already know the solution if you want to get back together. So even if the reason is the nature of your bad break or a partner, such as the former was too possessive. Discuss and find solutions to problems before you decide to reconnect. If the main problem is not solved yet, it's useless. Your relationship will inevitably end up again for the same reason.
6. He does not have a girlfriend and not being close to another woman.
Just because he said he still loves you, does not mean he did not say love also to other women. Be careful, not a playboy who spread nets on many women and waiting to see who will eat the bait. You can be just a backup.
7. You are happier when they were dating him.
Maybe once you consider the nature of the ex jealous is not tolerable anymore, so you decide to end the relationship. But if it turns out you actually suffer after the end of it, may in fact still no other way than breaking. Unlike the case if during courtship, you and your partner spend 50 percent of the time to fight. If you made cry when courting sad / upset once a week, maybe you should not be with him again.
8. You can imagine the former as your husband.
If you feel he is quite right to be the man you will marry one day, what a waste of time to re-establish a relationship with him? Time to find another man who is more appropriate.
9. You have to forgive each other.
Relationship can not be woven back if you or your ex still holds a grudge and not fully forgive past mistakes. Revenge may be a latent danger that could erupt at any time and prying them back in contention.
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