After a love affair can not be maintained, more couples are choosing up to a relationship "just friends". Is this kind of relationship can walk or there is always another purpose behind it?
CauseLearn again why your relationship with the former must end. The cause love breakup can determine the success of your friendship with the former.
If you broke up is fine because it was unable to undergo long-distance relationship, friendship might be better. But if you break up because the former had an affair and now has a new girlfriend, lest you hold a grudge hidden for revenge.
Recognize your feelings and your intentions to make friends with your ex. If there is a goal to win her back or other purposes, should forget the words "friends" in your relationship.
Body languageHe's not your lover now. He's just a friend like your other friends. Treat him just like your other friends. That is, any kind of attention that is manifested in body language such as kissing, holding hands, or hugging should not be done.
It could be he was uncomfortable with the treatment because of his intention back in touch with your friends only. If you can not control the feelings, you should avoid the first meeting with the former.
PatientYou are no longer entitled to get angry or sulk even if it comes with new people. Control your emotions and pertebal patience if they want to have a friendship with him. Do not be too ambitious in your relationship. As a friend, would not have to meet every day or even once a week.
Do not expect in a short time you and he can have a comfortable relationship with your old friends. You and he may take longer to adjust to a friend. Do not ever push yourself or force him to accept this relationship quickly. One step, you could even lose her as a girlfriend and friend.
New pageDo not make friends with the former hoping to get her love back. If your relationship is over, accept it gracefully and improve ourselves in order not to repeat the same mistakes. Slowly, open a new chapter of your life. There is no harm in opening the heart to new people. Friendships can be much easier if you and he are both moving from the past.
Help a friendIn the early days, there's no harm in asking help from friends to break the ice. If you and your ex have the same friends, have them come together. The more people, so you do not need too much focus by the former. Friends can also help alert if you do actions that could make it less convenient.
Do not trigger memoriesTry not to visit places that are too romantic or it can trigger old memories. This friendship is different from ordinary friendship. One step, this friendship could quickly end. If it will go together, select the places where the atmosphere is neutral and does not trigger the things that make the atmosphere of a rigid or bizarre.
Close of the pastIf you and your ex have decided to be friends, then you've agreed to seal the old memories. Talks about the past when you're both just going to make the atmosphere uncomfortable. No need to also bring up past mistakes if there are events or conversations that remind. Things like this will make the relationship uncomfortable and even potentially lead to new conflicts.
Respect his decisionIf all else has been tried but he was away, respect his decision. Maybe he was not comfortable to get in touch with you as a friend. There are many ways to keep your relationship with him. Give him time to adjust to the situation and a new leaf. Do not force him to stay in touch you if he did not feel comfortable. Wake up the friendship slowly. Call it only at key moments such as holiday or birthday to maintain good relations.
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