Marriage without the mature mental preparation is very prone to separation. Before going any further, better make sure first, if you and your partner are ready to navigate the Big Dipper household. Psychotherapist Tina B. Tessina in the book "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again" write down some things you should look at before getting married. This is it!
1. Define a commitment
You and your partner should be aware of, marriage is not a binding commitment for the next two months. Marriage is a covenant between you, your spouse and God for life. Make sure you and your spouse have the same komimen about marriage. If it will not be a problem in your marriage.
2. Responsibility for homework
You are still very dependent on parents or maids to take care of yourself in? Reduce this habit if you want to get married. When you get married is not only responsible to yourself, but also a partner. Although little impressed, but when married, trivial things like washing the dishes can be a seed argument.
3. Control emotions
Emotional control is the main thing when preparing for a wedding. Do not let your emotions are easily ignited to make the marriage fall apart. Uncontrollable emotion often makes a person easy to say "separation" or "divorce". If it happens, only regret will be felt.
4. Financial management
Finance will be a source of contention when married. It could not hurt to talk with you about this candidate. Make an agreement how to manage your future income. With this possibility you and your spouse arguing for money to be small.
5. Relationships with extended family
When you get married should not only be ready to have a partner, but also the entire family. If you are not currently suitable dating with her family, it would be a problem when getting married later. Also make sure your relationships and family and get along well before the pair decided to marry.
6. Finding the 'language of love' different
The romance of courtship with marriage will be different. When married, intimacy may no longer be a daily meal. Therefore, you and your partner should know each other better so that there was no further prejudice that arise when married later.
So, if you're ready to get married?
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